Books by Ron Schlegel
The Seven Doors
What happened to you is part of your story, not your identity.
What if healing isn't about becoming someone new, but coming home to who you have always been?
Many of us carry more than the memories of what happened to us. We carry the beliefs those experiences created—the beliefs that can quietly shape how we see ourselves, our relationships, and our possibilities.
Over time, those beliefs can become so familiar that we mistake them for the truth.
The Seven Doors: The Journey Back to Yourself is an invitation to look beneath those beliefs with compassion rather than judgment. Through seven doors, Ron Schlegel explores the journey from understanding what happened to you to discovering what may still be possible beyond it.
Along the way, you will explore how:
• Painful experiences can shape the beliefs we form about ourselves
• Symptoms and behaviors may carry messages worth understanding
• Deeply held beliefs can change
• Healing may require moving through emotional pain rather than continually moving around it
• Compassion and forgiveness can create space for freedom
• Truth can help us separate who we are from what happened to us
• Letting go of what no longer serves us can open the way to a different future
This is not a book about erasing your past.
It is about recognizing that your past does not have to write the rest of your story.
What happened to you matters. The pain was real. The beliefs you formed may have helped you survive.
But they do not have to define you forever.
There is more to you than what happened to you.
There is more to you than the beliefs created by your pain.
And there may be more life waiting for you than you have ever imagined.
The journey isn't about becoming someone new.
It is about coming home to yourself.
The Person You Became in Order to Survive
What if the person you became was the person you needed to become to survive?
Difficult experiences can shape the beliefs we carry about ourselves, other people, and the world around us. Sometimes those beliefs begin quietly—with a comparison, a criticism, a feeling of not belonging, or a conclusion we reached before we had the perspective to question it.
Over time, those beliefs can become patterns: the need to be strong, to please everyone, to stay in control, to be perfect, to take care of others, or to never ask for help.
But understanding where these patterns came from can create something new: the possibility of choice.
In The Person You Became in Order to Survive, Ron Schlegel invites you to look at your past with curiosity rather than judgment, understand the beliefs you learned, and begin separating what happened to you from who you believe you are because it happened.
Because the person you became may have helped you survive.
And perhaps now, you are ready to discover who you can become when survival is no longer the only goal.
What is love?
A Journey of Discovering What Love Means to US
We all learn about love from somewhere. Our families, our relationships, our experiences, and the people who shape our lives can quietly influence what we believe love is—and what we believe we must do to receive it.
What Is Love? invites you to look more deeply at what you feel, what you believe, and what you have experienced about love. Through reflection and honest questions, Ron Schlegel explores how life can shape the way we give, receive, trust, and experience love.
This is not a book about finding someone else's definition of love. It is an invitation to discover what love means to you.
What did you learn about love—and what do you want to believe about it now?
Why Does Love Keep Feeling This Way?
Why do some relationships feel so compelling—even when they are unhealthy or even toxic?
Why do you keep repeating relationship patterns you never meant to create?
Why do you sometimes pull away when someone gets close?
Why do you find yourself working so hard to keep a relationship together?
Why can familiar relationship patterns feel like love—even when they hurt?
Why Does Love Keep Feeling This Way? helps you understand why these patterns can be so difficult to recognize—and even harder to change.
Through the stories and patterns explored in these pages, you will begin to recognize the beliefs behind your reactions, understand why familiar patterns can keep repeating, and discover that what you learned is not necessarily who you are.
You may have learned to earn love.
You may have learned that people leave.
You may have learned that you are not enough.
You may have learned that loving someone means giving up part of yourself.
Those lessons may have made sense once. They do not have to determine what comes next.
This book is about recognizing what you learned, questioning what no longer fits, and creating room for a different way of loving.
Because familiar is not the same as forever.
The Little Voice Inside
What if the little voice inside your head isn't always telling the truth?
Maya discovers that thoughts can feel real without always being true. When her little voice tells her, “You can't,” “You'll mess up,” or “Nobody likes you,” Maya learns to pause and ask an important question:
“Is that really true?”
Through everyday experiences, Maya learns that making mistakes doesn't mean she's a failure, feeling afraid doesn't mean she can't be brave, and other people's feelings aren't always her responsibility.
Most importantly, Maya discovers that she doesn't have to believe every thought she has. She can notice a thought, question it, and choose a kinder way to respond.
The Little Voice Inside is a gentle, engaging story that helps children begin to understand the difference between feelings and thoughts while encouraging curiosity, self-kindness, courage, and resilience.
With simple questions and interactive practice pages, children are invited to discover their own helpful voice and practice choosing thoughts that help them move forward—one small step at a time.